tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4152532055090335650.post8019967585030919392..comments2024-03-23T07:29:54.230+00:00Comments on A bad witch's blog: Maidens, Mothers, Crones: Problematic Gender RolesBadwitchhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10548605170878666546noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4152532055090335650.post-47860216523978639982020-06-15T20:27:30.953+01:002020-06-15T20:27:30.953+01:00Well said. Biology is not destiny Well said. Biology is not destiny Bridgeofsighshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04267780515561213453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4152532055090335650.post-70149858175041038502020-06-15T07:54:26.704+01:002020-06-15T07:54:26.704+01:00Thanks so much for those comments. It is really go...Thanks so much for those comments. It is really good to hear other people's experiences!Badwitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10548605170878666546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4152532055090335650.post-15037926861425666062020-06-15T07:29:53.216+01:002020-06-15T07:29:53.216+01:00I am in my sixties, and I have two daughters (by c...I am in my sixties, and I have two daughters (by choice) and two grandchildren. I have never understood the focus on maiden, mother & crone as literally young woman, mother, post-menopausal woman. It makes much more sense to see it as seasonal: spring, summer & autumn/winter or representing different energies: youthful enthusiasm, mature creativity, acquired wisdom & knowledge (hopefully), which we don't necessarily manifest in that order, or even just one at a time. I was a mature student, getting my degree and MA in my 50s alongside working, and I tell my offspring that there are opportunities all throughout life, they don't have to do things in the conventional order. <br />BB JackieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4152532055090335650.post-69157183059910750332020-06-14T13:49:43.198+01:002020-06-14T13:49:43.198+01:00I am probably about 10 years older than you and wa...I am probably about 10 years older than you and was married in 1979 and also chose childlessness.<br /><br />My opinion is that this modern focussing on the 3 goddesses is a “backlash” from female emancipation. Despite education, The Pill and opportunities for women in careers, a lot of women prefer motherhood and housewifery and feel their choice is denigrated. Therefore they want some back-up for their chosen “career”. The 3 goddesses gave them just that. There used to be a lot of talk about being “selfish” if you were childless. As a girls’ grammar school student who was guided towards a career and university (not that I got there!) I was amazed at how many of my friends who’d had the same education opted to get married and breed. The same with my goddaughter who did go to university and then got a partner and children and has been a housewife ever since. It’s unfortunate that you were on your pathway at this time and got caught up in this “prejudice” which is just a way of justifying their waste of an education and opportunities which had been gained for them by the Women’s Movement. I don’t denigrate motherhood but it seems to be bloody hard work and hassle and boring and I do admire women who take it on and produce admirable citizens but do I envy them? NO! I once asked my Mother why she had married my Father (as opposed to anyone else) and she said “What else was there?”. Well there wasn’t in those days but a lot of women just don’t have the aptitude for the other opportunities in this day and age so “what else is there”? Actually my Mother did want children and I was her last chance – as was my Father and if it wasn’t for the War she could have done better.<br /><br />I don’t recall any unpleasant comments but I wasn’t looking to be a pagan in those days. (Of course, it’s always touchy to ask a women why she doesn’t have children in case it’s a medical misfortune for them).<br /><br />So for me the 3 Goddesses are just symbols of life – the seed, fruitfulness and death – and I don’t bother too much about them anyway (whether or not they actually existed historically or just in modern minds).<br /><br />Hope you and yours are safe and well (as well as the cat who seems to be a tortoiseshell just like our Irma) and not flattened by Lockdown. It seems the doors are starting to open – as we await the 2nd Wave – so masks on and march on.<br /><br />Kind Regards, Adele ButlerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4152532055090335650.post-4005320609505844582020-06-13T17:09:31.920+01:002020-06-13T17:09:31.920+01:00Hear, hear. I think you've hit the nail on the...Hear, hear. I think you've hit the nail on the head. Perhaps the male equivalent should be:<br />Kid. Kid. Kid.Sandranoreply@blogger.com